Rejection is Awesome!
…that’s a phrase that NEVER crossed my mind, until recently, when I experienced rejection. I’d been in an interview process to be a consultant for a company that helped other companies find just the right employees for the right team in their company. I LOVE doing work like that, making connections, bringing people together in a perfect (or close to) relationship. But, I did not make the final cut, instead was told that my experience did not align with what was their ideal. To be completely honest, that rejection did sting a fair amount. The work was really appealing as was the supplemental income.
But then I took some time to pull back and look at it, without the emotion, without feeling the attachment to the outcome of the situation and I started to see the silver lining (but there were still lingerings of hurt, if I continue to be honest. It’s hard to be entirely detached when you’re a person who feels deeply.)
So often, times of rejection take a hold of us and start to shape and define what we believe of ourselves and what we believe we are worthy of deserving in our lives.
This work would have put me in daily conversations with people who are in companies that sell heavy industrial equipment, farming machines and trucking sales, large, heavy, metal things that men with very old-school smarmy, salesy ways of being work for. Did I really want to be working with this kind of client? One who is almost entirely motivated by profits? Who don’t really care what their products are used for and if their products are something that would bring real benefit to their client? They didn’t care about the big picture and who they were helping – or hurting – with their work. I’d not taken time to consider all these details before… Did I really want to be working with them, helping them?
The answer was clear and simple.
The remnants of hurt melted away and I saw what came from that closed door. I could turn away from that compromised existence, working with people who don’t really care about what they do, and instead I could work with people who DO care about their work, because they’re doing what they LOVE, working with JOY and PASSION and really making a difference in the world. People like YOU.
I dodged a bullet there. While the supplemental income would have been a blessing, I see that there are other ways to make that happen without compromising my own gifts and desires.
So, how can you reframe rejection for your own life?
In this week’s healing meditation in Project Joy, I talked about rejection. We did healing around it, allowing the attachments to it to release and to allow our beliefs around rejection to be re-framed into an understanding that is more productive and encouraging and empowering.
We use rejection as ‘evidence’ that we are failures and that we’re not as good as others, because we didn’t fit our round, curvy selves into that square hole.
Rejection can often paralyze us. Instead, allow it to be a loving message from God, from the universe, that we’re not meant to be walking down that particular path at the moment. There is another perfect path laid out for us, so we need to keep moving. Keep a curious mind, let ourselves feel all the feelings – the hurt, the sadness, the loss – don’t force yourself through it – and then, when you’re ready ask “what is next?” Get quiet, find time for prayer, meditation, journaling to see what answers come. Talk through it with a friend. Look for what else is around you, next to you, on your horizon. As time passes and the hurt becomes less, it will be easier to see the other opportunities that are there.
So often, times of rejection take a hold of us and start to shape and define what we believe of ourselves and what we believe we are worthy of deserving in our lives. We use rejection as ‘evidence’ that we are failures and that we’re not as good as others, because we didn’t fit our round, curvy selves into that square hole.
YOU are Awesome – you’re a blessing and you’re here to touch lives of others, to make them better. Allow times we’ve been rejected to be seen as a loving, knowing hand, steering us to a better place.
Take a couple minutes to consider past rejections and how they helped shape your life. Can you find the blessings that came from that ‘lost’ opportunity?
I’d love to hear about it! Let me know what comes up as you do this – it might help to do multiple times.
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In the battle for good, sometimes fear gets in the way
Have you found yourself on the brink of a breakthrough, or experiencing something REALLY amazing and then – BOOM – something comes and rips the rug right out from under you?
Most of us have beliefs around how much of something good we can experience in our life – how much we can accomplish, how much success we can have… And when we start pushing up against that invisible energetic barrier – either through taking some big, brave steps, feeling amazing, experiencing really great things, meeting lots of lovely people, as examples – we trigger this barrier. We “know” what we “truly” deserve in life, and when things start getting bigger and better than we are comfortable with, we – consciously or not – will self-sabotage things to keep us in that same comfort level.
Think about a time where you caught yourself thinking, “Hmmm, things are going TOO well, they can’t continue on like this. When is the other shoe going to drop?” This is classic Upper Limit thinking.
It keeps us small and it keeps us safe. And it stinks, especially if you’d really like to live a life of purpose, acting on your God-given gifts, showing up as authentic you.
So what to do about it?
Here are a couple easy actions:
- Visualize yourself PAST that barrier, living a life that isn’t constrained by it. What do you do? Where do you live? Who are your friends? What do you eat? What choices do you make in your day?
- Acknowledge that this is happening and give it some curious, detached thought. Why is this happening? Why is it holding you back? Is it trying to protect you? Send some gratitude to that fear – it’s doing two things for you. It’s trying to protect you, and it’s showing you EXACTLY where you need to go. When you can consider the fear and take action in spite of it, you’re on the right path.
So…If I do these ^^^^ things, I’ll be cured forever?
Unfortunately, no. I’ve had some mentors use the phrase, “New level, new devil.” As you continue to step up your game and show up more and more fully, you expand and grow and find yourself bumping up new energetic barriers – your beliefs have expanded and now they’re ready to expand again. It’s life. It’s continued learning, self-understanding, gaining wisdom.
Read more about the Upper Limit Problem in Gay Hendrick’s book, “The Big Leap”
The video below talks about some Upper Limiting happening in my life today (post-run, excuse the sweat). Soldier on, sistahs!
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Sleep-e-o, Sleep-e-o… Wherefore art thou, Sleep-e-o?
How do you get your star-crossed love – Sleep – back in your bed every night?
You’ve got the time, the place, the good intention, but sleep seems to be a bit of a struggle. Busy brain, restless body, weird dreams… And it’s ridiculous that the more tired – and overtired – you are, it’s even more difficult to find ease with sleep.
Take 10 minutes to listen to this audio and prep your mind and body for bed. Feel free to do it if you wake up in the middle of the night to help get you back to bed.
Getting Ready for Bed Audio
You can listen right here, or you can download to your device for easy offline access anytime.
Other tips for a better night’s sleep:
– Turn off screens at least an hour before bed time.
– Be sure to get good exercise during your day.
– Eat foods and drinks that help you feel nourished and well-energized – not over-stimulated or shaky.
– Along with the steps in the audio, take some time to stretch and calmly move your body before bed time. Incorporate nice, deep breaths to calm you.
– Do journaling to get out anything that may be tickling your brain.
– Avoid negative news or intense-energy movies later in the day.
What other ways do you like to get yourself settled before bed? I’d love to hear about your routine and what helps you make the most of your night’s rest time. Shoot me a note at Katy@katymoses.com
I hope this supports your health and feeling all the goodness.
Love and Hugs,
My name is Katy Moses and I work with women like you who are ready to grow your businesses in your own way. You are too-often struggling with overwhelm, feeling like you need to incorporate all the things the experts say you should into your to-do list. Instead, I help you work with your unique skills and strengths to better leverage your action-taking and so you can experience real joy in work and life. Book your free Discovery Call today – Click HERE.
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